- Friends... lalalala Ping! Gotta love Flight of the Conchords! They got a song for everything!
- May 9th, 2011
It is so much easier to make friends when you are young, and I think a lot of it has to do with the fact that you are all interested in the same general areas. I know in youth there is generally more concentrated bullying and you generally end up with the same group of people, so it is harder to meet someone new when maybe everyone is picking on you, but really... young or old, people can be horrible.
I think it's easier because, until you reach those older years of high school, usually you are all busy with and interested in the same areas: how to get out of homework and still pass the class, how to deal with your parents who are cramping your style, how to get enough money for that new CD that just came out, how to look cool without trying to look cool, how to put up with this teacher who is making life miserable... things that are more frivolous in the end. Not that you don't think of those things as an adult, and not that it is not important to figure out how to get money for that new CD, but these are things that will not affect your life in the long run. And once you do get to those older high school years, even though you are starting to think about the big picture, you still have your current friends until you go your separate ways at the end of your primary school years.You end up staying friends with some people (my best friend and I have known each other since before we can even remember... aahhh swimming class), but falling out of contact with others.
All of a sudden, it's time to make friends! Like Kindergarten all over again! But it's harder now, because everyone is now on different levels. You didn't go to the same school together, so varying educations are at play. Maybe you are single and they are engaged, or married, or having kids. Maybe they are a home owner, when you still rent an apartment. Maybe they haven't ever even seen Anchorman, when everyone you ever went to school with has seen it and quotes lines from it every day. There are so many different wants and interests when you become an adult and not everyone is on the same trend as you anymore. Plus, it's one whole wide world out there now, rather than being in the comfort of the people you see in the same building every day (one of the reasons why people tend to make friends with coworkers). And if you live in a smaller town where you can't just Google if there is a support group for Whedonites (Joss Whedon fanatics; such as myself), then you can spend all your time talking and mooning over him and you may never find anyone else who will do the same.
This has been on my mind a lot lately. It would be so nice if when in school we were taught how to socialize out of our comfort zone. And even if and when you transfer from elementary into high school or if you transfer from a new school, it's still the same mentality so you don't really learn that lesson again even when you do that. I realize that is what Kindergarten is for, but I think we need a refresher once we hit our last year of high school, just so we make sure we can figure it out when you get out into the world.